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    Is it right to judge women because of their dress size?

    PALAK KASHIV
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    Look what she is wearing it does not suit her? She shouldn’t wear this, she will look fatter? Why is she so skinny don’t she eat food? All these things women have to hear this every day. Totally wrong to judge women for their dress size. It’s not anybody business to body shame any women, it’s very easy to make fun, pass comments on women’s dress size but people should also think about what women go through by listening to all this, it can put women in trauma, she loses her self-confidence. There is a limit to the ignorance of such people but sometimes it’s very important for women to show them their limits. some women just keep suffering, every woman should end this by giving a nice reply, not only men but women only body shame other women, nobody is perfect everybody has their flaws, people how are insecure about themselves they always try to find loopholes in other. Women should wear by looking her size and figure, that is how people think and their mindset is. We have to change to this by wearing what we want.
    I have also seen in some clothing stores they don’t have clothes in all sizes especially in the case of fat women, if she likes something she can wear because she does not have the perfect size for her, then women start blaming themselves for no reason. I think women start to be okay with how, they look, what they wear, what they eat instead of concentrating on people, this small change will bring big change in her life as well as in other people’s life. I have tried this and this has helped me a lot. We should complement every day ourselves, and also to other people they will very happy, instead of commenting on dress size.

    Manpreet Singh
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    The answer would be a simple no. No amount of proper dress in scan deny the fact that most of the crimes that happen in the women are due to the screwed mentality of man and that therefore believe that it is OK to harass them to commit a crime against them to need to be changed. if that was the case, then there should have been no crime against women where dresses like burqa are compulsory, there would have been no crime against women or girl child who is at at the extreme ends of the age. I don’t know why it is so hard to make people realize that it is the mentality and the intention of a person that is the driving force behind the crime. We cannot simply blame the victim for instigating or inviting the criminal to commit the said crime. By that flawed logic, one can literally have a defense for any kind of offense.
    It is high time that we should start questioning our archaic patriarchal setup in our society which is the root cause for most of the problems. The patriarchal setup is the root cause behind the thinking through which men feel that they have some kind of privilege over women and it is OK to behave in certain ways. We have to raise red flags in this department and we should make them realize that it is your wrong thinking that is driving th crimes against the women, not their dressing sense.

    nehachitroda
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    Clothes don’t define anyone’s personality, behavior, or work what actually defines is how you think and how you act. The fact that people are judging women because what they wear doesn’t fit someone else’s idea of ‘acceptance’ and this seems to be a widely seen scenario. Many might have experienced this, at some point of age, or some environment, and so on.
    It’s not at all right to judge a woman according to her dress code, she can wear whatever, however, and whenever she wants to but in the end, she wears what is told her to wear, and wears what’s acceptable in her surroundings because what people will say is the main thing or question arises while dressing.
    People have many things and words to say, their opinions are never-ending things, If you wear a full-body covered dress they’ll say that this girl or woman is so acceptable and dresses very greatly but if she wears a skirt or ripped jeans, they’ll comment like slutty or revealing. So, this shouldn’t be thought of by people because they wear clothes which they are comfortable in. Not only does this hurt the women that are being shamed but are surely inappropriate. If this is a practice that society continues to see as perfectly fine and acceptable, that means that it’s never going to stop. And every time listening to people somewhere makes that women lose her confidence too. Here’s an example; a woman dressing in a skirt and blazers at the office is acceptable because she is in the office dress code but if another woman wears this dress code she’s not accepted and people keep on commenting
    A woman doesn’t wear any cloth to grab attention or show off something, she wears what’s comfortable and all appropriate to her at that time. Judging women for their clothes choice is a downright harmful practice, it should be stopped and people should not define someone just because of what she wears!! Let’s allow her to wear what she wants to instead of assuming it’s showing off. It’ll make a better place for all.

    shaifalikapoor03
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    Frightfully, some people quote that a girl is considered decent if she wears decent clothes. So, here i am asking, what is the definition to decent clothes?? Because indian society has created a dress chart which describes woman’s character, a girl wearing a dress above the knee length is considered to be a slut, wearing a dress below the knee length is considered to be a the one who doesn’t have a dressing sense, a girl wearing full length jeans is basically considered to be a nerd and boring. So, this is how women are being judged. What do they actually want to say? Is it that a girl wearing short skirts can’t be intelligent, and a girl wearing full length jeans can’t be dumb?Actually the problem exists in the minds of people who can’t control their hypocratic personality of judging people because that’s what flows in their blood, judgement. If a girl’s character is to be judged on the basis of their dress size then, why are their cases where women in burqa gets raped! The filthy mindset of people is the other major reason because of which our country is getting unsafe for girls more and more everyday. The only problem that should be fixed to change the world for women to be a better place is the worsened mindset of people regarding women.

    Tanima
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    Look, how’s she dressing up!
    Oh geez, doesn’t have any dressing sense.
    This tiny length dress! And again in a community full of men!
    What a whore she’s.
    Must want to get raped.
    A mother and still wearing shorts! Have some shame!
    Doesn’t suits you.
    Don’t wear those, it attracts(whispering)
    What a transparent, could even come naked too…
    And so on…
    What is these all about, are you asking?
    These are the taglines or you can say that back bitching which are gasping into women’s ear every day.
    Yes, they are such used to it, that women have gained antibodies against them. Oh! You’re suggestion not ‘antibodies’ I guess, but what are they without a mere disease?
    No they don’t have to wait for adulthood to learn these much, according to our society this is one of the upbringing manners which we should teach our girls. And to everyone who asks why women take long to get ready, they have to think every single probability of not being a whore who dresses up to seduce or not being an ugly who is not taught about reputation.
    Yes, it’s depressing and it gets more of it day by say.
    So, why does everyone focus on it? For make it safe for women? Yes, they said.
    I protest with a big NO.
    To each individual who are constantly questioning about length of dress, can you please say, what’s wrong with that 11 month old’s dress up that her own uncle who raped her? Or her tiny adorable legs were seducing him?
    A properly dressed vet, continuously trying to help pets, but can’t get to live because the most dangerous of animal species, humans abusively raped her?
    Hathara, that small village girl. What did she wore to manipulate?
    What’s wrong with that each and every girl who dressed up according to you and still got raped? Have you an answer?Oh you must be thinking of some other causes like being a girl is itself a sin, right?
    Her dresses were never to be blamed.
    This one question is so frustrating, that woman often even start to blame themselves for getting assault. They forget their own confidence broken for the constant reminder of society that blame should be always yours.
    And why does they do it?
    As we are human, we ought to detect a guilty for every crime. Now, in a patriarchal society, men can’t be blamed. So we have to find the weaker one to wield the blame, that’s all. And just how much women will admit it that there’s wrong with them, people are going to suppress all humanity and blame them over and over again. So it’s never wrong with choices of women.
    If there’s any problem, then it’s with your ill mentality not dress.

    anshika agarwal
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    The answer would be a big “NO”. Women can wear anything they want and of any size. It’s there personal choice. No one can judge her by her dress.
    We are living in a patriarchy society which said women looks beautiful in saree. Why? Because it is covered from everywhere. She can look beautiful in every dress she wears. A girl who had been raped by men is judged in the society by passing some irrelevant comments like because she wears short dresses that’s why this happened to her. It gives a shock to a woman, seriously any dress can lead to being her raped, she doesn’t give any kind of invitation. And if it’s as per society norms then why girls who wear suits are raped? Muslim women wear Burkhas which cover their whole body then why they are raped?
    Women wearing backless dresses are judged by showing their body and they are shameless. Women wearing suits and sarees are considered to be “sanskari” by the society. It’s her life , her will ,her body who are you to comment on her. Let her live her life as she wants. Go girl and wear whatever you wish to. Let them judge you . It shouldn’t bother you. You know you are right at your place
    This is a patriarchy society who can bring a fault in whatever women does.

    VIPASHA .
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    “The size of a girl’s dress indicates how her character is” ….“See how big clothes she has wear ”……“See this, the civilization of today’s girl’s looks like this” …… these are the comments that all girl has to face and has listen if she were small clothes .
    “No one has right to judge a woman because of their dress size” .It is a girl’s decision as to what kind of clothes she should wear . I do not understand why people have such a belief that if the girl’s clothes are short then her values will also be spoiled by how we can check her until we talk to her, Yes if the person in front doesn’t talk well with us , then we can say that his values are not good, but how can we compare clothes with values ? If a woman wears a sari, her waist is visible , then her values is not seen there. At that time, we will say that it is the rites of the girl . But then if the same girl comes in the shots then she is value less .All of this is a misconception of society, a group has been formed to promote this notion .This team harasses girls who wear short clothes, forcing them to wear salwar suits to their school and college. Recently I saw a video of Taapsee and Rannvijay on Instagram ,The boy commented on Tapti’s Instagram photos and wrote that you are spoiling the society, correct your clothes, , what kind of picture you have put , and I don’t know what dirty things were written there. That boy used such dirty language over there and then he was saying that I am working for the society because Taapsee made a mistake, he respects her because of this, to improve her, that she will wear such clothes Do not wear and do not put pictures like this. One such video was of Rannvijay and a girl in which a boy used very wrong words on that girl’s Instagram comment box and said that your clothes reveal your house to your character in your home. This shows how your character is and says that if something happened to you in the future, don’t you say that it was not my fault .
    If a girl is raped, then people say that this girl was raped because of clothes , she wearing short clothes, then tell me one thing why a little girl is raped ? why a 45 -year-old woman is raped? People will always keep saying something or make short clothes excuse. People’s thinking can never be corrected and if we start thinking with people’s thinking, then our life will stop .Parents also should not Interrupt , how to dress, it is up to a girl to decide in which clothes she is comfortable . It seems to me that those people who comment on the clothes of girls are kind of jealous of those girls because they themselves nothing to show up , so they also Discharge the girl’s . These people never be able to move forward and not allow anyone else to grow.
    People think girls wear short dresses to attract them. They think if the girl is showing her cleavage, it’s to attract them but please guy’s, do not misunderstand all the girls. Girls do this for themselves for their own happiness and for you all . A girl’s clothes do not show her character. Yes, but your thinking tells what kind of character you have .Even in Twenty First Century what kind of lousy vile and vile thinking is yours. Even though her clothes are small but her thinking is big and you are walking with little thinking even after wearing full clothes.

    Yash Tiwari
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    As a society, we seem to think that there is a certain dress code that women ought to follow. The seemingly latent reason behind this must be that this code is following the fundamentals of our religion. Indian culture dictates certain rules for dressing up and therefore, it is respectful for women to not flaunt their bodies. We all crave acceptance. We want to be liked and loved by others. But the truth is, nobody’s going to be accepted by everyone everywhere – at all times.

    `Women are judged for the way they look all the time. From stepping out of their homes to giving interviews, women are subjected to this scrutiny about the way they dress. Since when did dressing up become a crime? It is funny that we criticize fashion designers for producing clothes that show off the female body or even make them look sexy but we also kill them for not producing the clothes that hide it.

    Is there a protocol for dressing when you go out? What is the right length of one’s skirt? What color are your nails? Many people believe that a woman should dress modestly, but what exactly does modesty mean? Since most of us would find it difficult to define modesty with precision, we tend to fall back on our definitions. It’s interesting how some people have defined ‘modesty’ concerning their religion.

    Often, we see this kind of intelligence as a stereotype for women who are considered less intelligent. Society always arranges women to be inferior because of their looks and dress sizes. It’s never been a secret that women are judged by their looks and what people consider is appropriate. The reason it should not matter is that women are more important than looks. Or, judging someone based on their looks rather than who they are inside is just wrong. Women are continuously put down and made fun of for their appearance, but there’s only one person to blame here. Women who allow others to make them feel uncomfortable because of their clothing or size need to stand up for themselves. It may be hard, but you have to. People are going to judge you no matter what, so you should learn to make your own decisions and stand up for yourself.

    Is it OK to judge women based on their dress size? No, it’s not! Dressing up or wearing clothes is a matter of personal choice; we should not discriminate against anyone for wearing a certain size. A person’s worth is not judged by their looks! A woman’s choice to wear clothing that is tight-fitting, revealing, or sexy is her right. Society has always had an unhealthy perception of women and their bodies. Conversely, it can be changed, one step at a time.

    DISHA SAPKALE
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    You should never judge a person character by their clothes. In fact you should never judge a person character until and unless you know them. It only tells about how your personality is. It is a shallow mind that judges others by the way they dress.
    It depends on the mentality of the viewer. At one side when a girl wears traditional clothes with full body covering, she is thought as ‘sanskari’ , while when a girl wears modern dresses like mini skirts, shorts, crop top etc. she is said to have forgotten the culture at some places. But this is not the truth. At least anyone should not have a problem with women’s dress. This is ridiculous. If a man wears a transparent dress, he is rarely noticed. But if this happens with a woman, others stare at her like what a crime has she done. Comments are passed on her. They literally scan her. It is the mentality of people. Women’s are judged and are looked in such a way only, in our society. Because of this women feel uncomfortable only due to society judgment. The clothes you wear are how your express yourself. The same can go for your makeup. Dressing up taking time to make yourself look the way you want only for yourself because it gives confidence for every women. They don’t dress up for society to get judged by them. Dressing up can make you feel like your very best, but just because you enjoy feeling your best, that doesn’t mean you aren’t happy with the way that you are. Perhaps you are happy with the way you look and want the world to see this happy, confident you and do this by dressing up and pampering yourself. The character of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, or the figure that she carries.

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