2 years, 2 months ago-
Being an overweight girl I have always subjected various criticisms to the point I cried. Especially when it comes to the matter of clothes they always expect to not wear sleeveless or tight fitted or too baggy clothes as according to them we will look fat in that . I am often advised to wear Indian clothes instead of western. I am even advised not to wear jeans and many more things. Some people even ask things like “Do you get clothes of your size?” Which sometimes becomes embarrassing.
But the conclusion is no matter whether you are skinny or fat they will always judge us no matter what.
But now I have decided to accept myself the way I am . I wear the clothes I like and are comfortable with. I wear all types of clothes now.
Believe me guys every woman is beautiful in her own way. No one has the right to tell them what to do and what to wear. People are hypocrites. They will tell a fat girl to reduce her weight and a skinny girl to gain weight. Often I am told that “you look good but if you lose a little bit of weight you will look more beautiful and get good boys.”
I always brush off these so-called compliments.
I tried various ways to lose weight but I couldn’t succeed and instead tormented myself. I finally started to focus on my happiness and now I admire my body.
But not everyone can realise it and we have to undergo so much criticism so we should try to normalise being curvy. The very first step is if someone is bullying some girl we should stop him. We should reprimand them . Constant criticism can lead to depression and other health issues. Many actresses are often body shamed which is really sad and when actors are gaining weight they are admired. So why to endure this lets fight and love ourselves the way we are. There are various fashionable dresses coming in plus size so why should we hear bullshit opinions . There are many bloggers out their who support body positivity and also now actresses bash people who body shame them. So encourage and support body positivity.It is not right to judge a woman because of the size of their clothes. In India showing a little bit of cleavage or leg will get women reactions like “what on earth are you wearing?” Revealing clothes weren’t considered vulgar in ancient India. Ancient figurines and temple carvings reveal that nude bodies were worshipped. When the era of the Delhi Sultanate began in India, elite women’s movement in public spaces became restricted and used to cover their heads in public. Women’s clothes became a matter of their family’s honour. With the advent of British colonialism, the notions became even stronger. The British considered draping the saree without a blouse “vulgar.” As the feminist movements emerged, and the notions of morality evolved in the western part of the world, it became acceptable for western women to wear revealing clothes. At the same in India, the binary of the “good Indian women” and the “bad western woman emerged”.This situation changed in the 1980s and 90s as the economy began to open up. With the arrival of fashion brands, beauty pageants and cosmetic industries wearing short clothes seemed to be quite normal. The era of the “modern Indian women” had begun. While it is still acceptable for women in cities to wear these kinds of clothes, rural women are still condemned. It is still seen as a “risky” behaviour to wear these clothes. Many politicians have openly said that “revealing clothes invite rape”. Women’s clothing has nothing to do with “inviting sexual violence”.
All of us are aware of the fact that one of the root causes of all the social issues that exist is the downtrodden mentality of the society. Of course, we all belong to the society but that does mean that the society owns us. Let us take an example here. Many of us live in cooperative housing societies. Of course the members of such a society need to abide by certain regulations imposed by the said society, but that doesn’t give the society to dictate the colour of the wall paint of any particular house. It cannot regulate how any house in the society chooses to aesthetically decorate its place, because though the house belongs to the society but it doesn’t own the house. That’s an individual ownership. In the same way, the society doesn’t own the body and free will of an individual and thus have no right to dictate what he or she chooses to wear.
So, judging a woman by the choice of her clothes is downright nonsensical. It has got no basis whatsoever. People have a tendency to mark a woman characterless if she’s wearing a short dress with a fish net stocking. There is no sense to this logic. People must understand that because a few such misguided women chose to wear a certain type of clothing doesn’t mean that all women who wear such clothing are also lacking in character. Our society is too quick to handover character certificate over an individual’s choice of clothing, especially women’s. It’s like judging the talent of a guitarist by the price of the guitar he or she is playing. That’s downright unfair.
Now let’s not get even started on how hypocrite our society is. It’s perfectly fine when the waist of woman is visible in a saree but it’s deemed shameful when the same woman is seen flaunting her waist in a crop-top. These hypocrites are the same people who ogles over their mobile and computer screens when engaged in porn sites but declares a woman characterless if her clothes are not “appropriate”. Such people plague our society and make lives of the women miserable.
It’s high time when people realise the fact that it’s not the women who must keep their dressing style in check, but it’s the society that must change and better it’s perception and mentality towards the dressing style of any woman. Justifying a horrendous crime as rape, just because the victimised woman had been wearing “revealing” clothes is downright inhuman. As longe as such antisocial elements exist, we cannot expect our society to free from all the vices anytime soon.
“Look at her dress” “look how she exposes her body” “she tries to seek attention”
Oh my god! These words are heard by most of the women including me. Most of the people in the society has this habit of commenting women for their clothes. Their minds are flooded with a wrong opinion that women dress up to catch the attention of the surrounding.
As a woman, I can say that women dress up for themselves and not for course to impress others. We have our own rights to express ourselves and the same we have for our outfit too. Different people have different styles. The thing which you like may not be liked by others and a thing liked by others may not be liked by you. As if you don’t like a woman`s clothe then don’t look at her anymore.
If a woman dressed well, they will comment on it; if a woman dressed short, they will comment on it too. The thing we can get from this is that there isn`t a dress which a woman can wear to stop being criticized by others.
The society is judgmental. and often forgot the famous quote by BRYANT COLLINS, ‘don’t judge a book by it`s cover’. Everyone should stop seeing a woman from her outfit and start to see her from her inner beauty. You may not like the outfit she wears, if you see her inner core, you may like her soul. And that matters the most.
A way ahead, I would like to tell people that its her opinion to express herself to the world. I would like add a point, before judging a book by its cover try to read the pages in between them to understand the concept of the book.Is it right to judge women because of their dress size?
No, it is absolutely unethical, illogical and stupid to judge women because of their dress size or on the basis of their dress size. I do not think that a woman’s clothes or clothing style or skirt length can determine her background or character or social skills. Although, I know people all around us in our society are used to judging girls and women on the basis of the clothes they wear or the way they dress up. Any girl wearing a skirt in a social gathering or even on a casual sunny day is said to be ‘asking for it.’ Even a girl or a woman wearing a cropped top on top of a pair of jeans is said to be ‘asking for it.’ The irony is, any woman wearing a saree with a blouse length shorter than that of a crop top cannot be ‘asking for it;’ obviously right? As she is wearing Indian attire, how can she be ‘asking for it?’
In our society everyone is busy judging and passing comments on women. Every female is judged and the ones not wearing Indian attires or not behaving like they are fragile or weak or introverts, are said to be ‘asking for it’ as in asking for some sexual attention from anyone and everyone around them. According to the society, every girl who is seen drinking or smoking is ‘asking for it.’ In various crimes against women, men have reportedly given statements that said that they raped or charged on the victims because they were wearing short skirts and hence they were ‘asking for it.’ Why do they not understand that literally nothing means that a girl is ‘asking for it,’ because if she wanted to, she could have asked you! Why does the society not judge men who roam around with their first few buttons of the shirt open? Why does the society not pass judgment on men that do not even wear shirts in public? Why does the society not think that men who wear shorts in public are characterless? It is clear, that the society is gender biased and looks for weapons to use against women all the time, hence judging their characters based on their clothes. It is high time we not only ‘acted’ literate, but also ‘behaved’ literate and not trapped our minds in these narrow-minded, stereo-typical, misogynistic thoughts. It is high time that we understood that no woman is ‘asking for it!’
A woman myself,
Shubhangini ShaktawatAlmost all have an opinion about the appearance of a woman’s outfit. Many people have this misunderstanding to attract attention from ladies. I can say women like to dress up for themselves as a woman. From the length of her skirt, from the height of her heels to the shade of her nail paint – women are judged by their appearance in people’s minds and minds. The problem is that without being judged a woman can wear no clothing. People want to comment, ‘Look at the girl wearing red clothing. What a seeker of attention!’ The styles and tastes of many people are varied. Everyone has the freedom to speak out and some individuals dress up to do that. Certain people don’t. Certainly, someone may have a different style than you are, but that doesn’t make you any less than you are. Let me clarify that women enjoy dressing up, not anyone else. You see next time a woman has something you don’t love, just look away. You don’t like it, perhaps, but she will. We need to focus rather than concentrate on what a woman is wearing. It appears a general problem that people evaluate women because their attire doesn’t meet anyone’s notion of what is “appropriate.” If you are a woman, at some point in your life you probably had this happen to you. It begins early, school clothing standards are considered undesirable since it is too distracting for the setting of the school. And from there it just goes on. You might not like the way a lady dresses, but she might love her personality. When a woman judged what she wears, they seemed to have gotten rid of nasty cough individuals. We should never judge a woman by her clothing. And remember what Collins said, ‘Judge the book never by the cover until you have read the pages between the book.’ And remember what Bryant Collins said. Yeah, that’s very true, a lady has so much more than she’s wearing.
There is a common notion in the society of what kinds of dresses are appropriate and “modest” enough for women. But no matter what a woman chooses to wear, she is always judged for it; either she is too backwards for wearing traditional clothes everyday that cover her whole body or she is “asking for it” if she wears something even slightly revealing. It is literally impossible to please the society, because no matter what you wear, people will find a way to judge you. But is it right to judge women because of their dress size? Absolutely not!
It is not right to judge anyone because of their dress size. People wear what they wear to please themselves, and not the others around them. What someone chooses to wear is no one’s business except their own. It’s 21st century and the least we can do as a society is stop judging people for what they wear, because it does not make sense in any way. I think it should become apparent to everyone now that minding their own business is the best way to live, at least when it comes to what people choose to wear.
It is difficult to live in a society for a woman where she is judged 24/7 on the basis of the length of her skirt, the size of her heels, the look of her cleavage, the tightness of her jeans and what not! We live in a society where people keep on passing quick judgements on the basis of what a woman wears. They judge a woman’s character by the size of her dress. ‘Attention seekers’ is what they call her. If a boy passes on a foul comment on a girl then people are quick to first judge the girl for being such an attention seeker in turn excusing the behaviour of the boy. Women are at fault and are victims at the same time. This is the kind of society we live in!
Why can’t girls wear clothes as per their wish, as per their comfort and their liking? They have full right on their body and should be able to cover it in whatever manner they want to. The society needs to change their thinking and not the clothes of women. Each and every woman has the right to be treated equally and not be judged by the size of their dress.
It has been rightly stated that, there is so much to a women than what she wears. Almost every individual has an opinion to put forward when it comes to dressing style of a women in particular there are many misconceptions about the dress size of a woman that are directly related to seeking attention but so is not the case.
First of all there is not any outfit in our society which a women can carry without being judged on. Girls wearing short dresses are considered attention seekers by not only men but also by women around.To put it simply it here can be said that yes, we live in a judgemental society. Why is it so hard for people to understand that that the length of a dress worn by a women doesn’t define her character to be judged upon. It is just a simple dressing sense which is not admired by many due to their backward thinking but this shouldn’t be carried on as it’s a pure harassment to a person as everyone has a right to express themselves and many di so by dressing up the way they want.
I believe it is high time to understand here that women dress up for themselves and not for any other person. It does not necessarily mean that if we as a society don’t like or approve something then we’ve got the right to criticize the same.
We are progressing as a society in many aspects but a handful of people are still stuck on the old ways of judging women. I would like to conclude here by words of Bryant Collins who Said “Never judge a book by it’s cover until you’ve read the pages that are in between the book”.
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