2 years, 1 month ago-
Why is it always a woman who has to compromise and kill her dream in a marriage? Why is she the one who has to remain in the house and look after the kids? All a marriage means to a woman is sacrifice. The biggest sacrifice is that a women has to leave her house and her family, go to the boys house and accept his family. She is one who is supposed to stay at home and look after her ‘new family’. She is reminded multiple times that she needs to ‘behave’ as an inferior character since she is a ‘wife’. She is told to compromise her dreams in order to fit in the boxes of ‘stereotypes’ of our society. Many women fail to pursue their education and live the lives of their dreams due to the senseless typical mindset of out society. Some parents do their part by just graduating their girl and making her an educated, skilled, marriage material’ women.
Women are all- rounders! They are capable of working, earing, looking after their family, their children, managing their household but still they are taken for granted. Their efforts and hard work is often labelled as their ‘responsibility’ and are not given the respect and appreciation they deserve. Instead they are told to adhere to the societal norms, sit at home and performs their duties I.e kill their dreams and live for others. But why only them? Why not a man? Because this is how our society works. This is the dirt and filth filled inside the brains of our people. And till the time this dirt is not flushed out, their is no way our women will ever achieve as equal treatment as men.
From young age on onwards, girls are advised to adjust in every situation no matter what. They taught to adjust to the fact that their brother would always be treated better than them, they are advised that they’ll always be the ones responsible if anything wrong happens to them. And that is exactly what happens after a woman’s marriage too. From her maternal place itself, she is taught to compromise within her marriage and fulfil the whims of her husband doesn’t matter whether at the stake of her own well being. And she is obviously forced to compromise at her in-laws’ place.
This is the disgusting patriarchal mindset of the society. The patriarchy has made it so that only a woman has to compromise in every tiny thing, be it her job or her marriage. The patriarchy serves everything to men on a silver platter while women are supposed to keep adjusting and compromising. And that is exactly why we need feminism!
When we hear the word compromise the only gender we associate it with is females. Why? Because since the time a girl is born all she has to do is compromise. A girl has to compromise with her education because her family doesn’t have enough money to educate her along with her brother so she has to compromise her education because you know a boy’s education is very important and help the family in future while all a girl has to do when she grows up is be a homemaker and take care of her in-laws. It’s just the beginning of her compromises. If a girl completes her general studies she has to compromise her higher education for the same or other reasons. When she is getting married, the first piece of advice she gets is to “compromise” in her husband’s house because she is a woman. Women are made to compromise because men don’t have this feature in them right? Well, it is a sad truth that even though a man can compromise too but it’s always a woman who’s been told to do so! When a girl wants to pursue an unconventional profession, she gets no support and hence she has to compromise for less than what she dreamt of, in the same way in a workplace, she has to compromise numerous times because that’s the way the world works. Let’s take an example, suppose both husband and wife are working in their dream job and the responsibility of a child comes into their life. Who will be told to compromise? Everyone knows the answer, of course, the wife will be told to stop working to look after the child. Why not a man? Some will say a child needs a mother the most! No, this is not true that a child needs only a mother, a child needs a father the same way they need a mother. Still, a woman is told to compromise.
Women have always been compromising in their lives because of the fear of other people’s judgment or the patriarchal norm of society. A woman has to compromise in marriage because society has given so much importance to a man that it feels illegal when a man compromises because of his wife. This is not how this world will prosper, this is only a matter of great concern. If a woman has to compromise and kill her dreams just because she’s a woman and she’s expected to do so! Then this is not just a woman’s loss but the loss of everyone in our society.
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