[Dharani Sri]

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Beauty standards
This judgmental society always have some certainties for everything and so for the beauty standards. This not only include girls but also boys. The most important fact is that women are criticized more because of this beauty standards.

This society always expect women to be thinned, light skinned and more curvy at certain ratios. This beauty trend keeps changing time by time.

Most of the women strive to maintain the uncertain beauty standards set by the society.
Most of the women, men, girls and boys fell into this unrealistic beauty standards by the extended use of social media. Those influencers of social media promote various products with the help of their beauty. And we people also fell into these fake advertisements. There are some netizens who criticize the social media and cine field fame, when they cross the beauty standards. They criticize them until or unless they change them back to the previous structure or kill themselves.
We may hear that ‘appearances are deceptive’, but we follow them and them in our life? We all judge people by their appearance. Due to this behavior of the society most of the introverts, who`s self-esteem level is low afraid to move forward and show up in front of the society. They afraid whether they may be criticized because of their appearance and beauty standards.
Now a days we forget the phrase, ‘don`t judge the book by its cover’. whether the person male or female, thick or thin, light skinned or dark skinned, they are beautiful by their heart and by their thoughts.
I end by saying that, we people should now the reality that these beauty standards even not a standard one. It keeps changing. The trend which had been during our grand parents’ generation are not as same as the one in our parents’ generation and in our generation. Don`t believe in these fake beauty standards. BEAUTY LIES IN THE HEART!

[Dharani Sri]

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With homeschooling on the rise, will the responsibility largely fall on women?
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Of course, it is a big yes. First, I would like to explain what is homeschooling. Homeschooling is a progressive movement widely around the country as well as worldwide, in which the parents educate their children at their home instead of sending them to traditional public or private schools. Most of the families choose homeschooling because of the dissatisfied educational progress in the traditional schools, different religions and many more but in the brief, the children do not pursue education in the traditional schools.
In this method, the children should pick any of their desired time to study either in the morning as in traditional schools or in the evening. Most the requirements for this homeschooling varied from place to place. This does not require the parents to be educated in the traditional schools. In most of the families, women are the one who stays in the home with the children. If her children`s progresses were not good, she will be cornered for that. Since, her spouse, the father comes home everyday in evening spend time with the children. But wife is the one who is blamed for everything.
Definitely the homeschooling method will put all the responsibilities over the mother, until and unless the husband quit the job and take care of all the household chores. This homeschooling creates social isolation among the children. If they grew up and remain isolated, this will also pressure the woman in home, that she had not spent enough time with her children.

At last, I end up by saying that, the homeschooling method will pressure the women in home. This can be reduced, if and only if the father shares equal responsibility in the everything about their children.

[Dharani Sri]

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Why are brides ‘given away’ at weddings?
Can you guess what is the biggest driving force behind Indian people to migrate from their home?
If you guessed as employment, try to guess it for one more time. The biggest migration is because of marriage. Can you believe this? But this is the fact. Among those migrants most of them are women. Why is this happening? Why can`t a man come out of his house?
“It is not a common practice or desirable culture for a Hindu son in India to get separated from his parents on getting married at the instance of the wife, especially when the son is the only earning member in the family” said the Supreme Court (SC). In India, most of the families do not subscribe to the western culture, like boys should get out of his house after marriage. This is the main reason why most of the parents give away their daughters with other gifts to the groom.
One more reason is that they have a mindset that male only can lead a family, he is the who can support the family with all their financial needs, he is the one who can form a lineage to their family. And this is followed since many years. If a woman insists her groom to come to her house after the marriage, she will be scolded. Parents insist their daughter from her very childhood that she will go to another house after marriage. But they never tell this any of the boys.
Just think, shouldn`t a woman has a wish to serve her parents who has taken care of her from her very first day at this fairy land? In this 21st century we should change this. Or at least we should change the phrase ‘a woman is given away as the gift to the groom’ with ‘she is welcomed to another home’.

[Dharani Sri]

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Fairy Tales like Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty have women as passive characters, waiting for a ‘prince charming’ to save them. Is it time we stopped telling these stories to children?
Fairy tales have stolen many of dreams. I think this happened not only for me, but also for many of us. Fairy Tales Have played an important role in our childhood. but still do we narrate these tales to our generation? Many of us have stopped because, these fairy tales portrait woman as a witch or an evil step mother or mostly the lead character is portraited as a passive one who waits for a prince to save her, which develops a passive character in our children.
In fairy tales like Sleeping beauty, The Snow white, Cindrella and many more, the lead character are portraited as a passive woman. This develops a submissive character in the children`s mind. This makes them to rely on others. in those ages, their mind will absorb everything we tell. This fixes in their mind that they should wait for others to help them to overcome their disabilities. This is the reason why many of the parents hesitate to narrate these fairy tales to their children.
But there are some other fairy tales like Rapunzel, The Robber Bridegroom. In these fairy tales, the lead women character raised her voice and tried themselves to overcome their disabilities. In the Robber Bridegroom, she creates a situation to escape from the butcher and she does. In this tale, the lead character relies on herself and get her away from the trouble.
Thus, fairy tales have both positive and negative aspects on children. Fairy tales have portraited women in many aspects, both admirable and abominable. The roles of women are already changing in today’s culture. Disney fairytales films namely The Little Mermaid and Beauty and the Beast portray females in a more positive light. They possess more freedom to make choices and more changes in their lives as they pursue their highly articulated dreams. These stories can lead to increase the creativity of the children. I suggest every parent to narrate bedtime stories to their children.

[Dharani Sri]

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Should motherhood be a choice?
Of course, it is yes. It should be the choice of a woman who carries the baby. She is the one, on whom most of the parenting responsibilities are imposed not only by the society but also by her spouse.
I could see some issues about motherhood in my own family. My sister got married 2 years ago. They have planned to have a baby after some years. And I notice a thing a year after her first anniversary, she hesitates to attend any of the family functions. When I asked her about that, she opens up her heart. She said to me that whenever she attends a function, the relatives ask her about the baby. They did not ask about the baby to her spouse. This let me think more about being a mother. Who are they to interfere in the personnel life of my sister? Why do they concern about her? Dont her spouse plays an equal role in the parenting? Dont he gets promoted as a father?
In this society, there is a basic norm that when a woman gets married, she should have a baby within a year of her marriage. If she neglects that, whether she is given a title ‘selfish woman’ or given a lot of advices on visiting fertility centers. In this patriarchal society, a woman is neither given a choice nor asked for an opinion. Why? Why didn’t anyone question it before? Why didn’t anyone just stop for a moment and think whether motherhood is really their cup of tea? Do we not minimize the importance of a woman’s career by this? Don’t we just assume that all mothers can conceive and not even consider whether they want to? Are we not reinforcing the stereotypes by asking the woman and not the man?
I end up by saying that, motherhood should be the decision of the woman who carries the baby. Its her womb, its her responsibility and it should be her decision. If a woman wanted a baby, let her or whether she wants the baby later, let her or whether she never wants a baby, let her decide. Don`t push her.

[Dharani Sri]

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child marriage is defined as a reunion of a minor girl with an adult or with a minor boy. The word minor represents the children who are all below the age of 18. Do you believe, is this the age to decide about being a wife or about being a husband? Definitely the answer must be a big no.
child marriage robs the childhood from the children. They are the ages in which they can wander around and fly freely like birds. Child marriage affects both the boys and girls. But mostly girls are affected by this. They are not capable of being a wife or being a mother or to handle the family. They are immature.
Child marriages are mostly happening due to the poverty of their family. In most of the cases, brides accept to marry because they are pressured by their family. Child marriage leads to early motherhood. These girls also face problems like domestic violence. This also resist them to go to schools and pursue education. They are unaware of the basic rights that is right to education and many other laws. Because of this she is forced to have sexual intercourse with her elderly husband and forced to have multiple children, despite she is not suitable both physically and mentally. Even boys who are forced into child marriages could face complications in their life, mentally and physically. Child marriage has numerous disadvantages. Children are thrust into a world of responsibility that is far beyond their comprehension. They are stripped of their innocence and are expected to look after a family
I end up saying that, now-a-days child marriage is reduced. But the fact is it will take some years to eradicate the child marriage. We still have many ways to stop this, when it happens in our surroundings. As we already discussed that mostly it is because of poverty. We can convince the parents and take care of their children. Wee should stand hand in hand unitedly to stop these incidents as a neighbor, as a friend, as a peer and as a citizen of the country. Let’s eradicate the child marriage together.

[Dharani Sri]

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Shouldn’t the legal age for marriage be the same for girls and boys both?
The different legal standards for the age of men and women to marry has been a subject of debate. Before starting the discussion, I would like to share why these minimal ages for marriage has emerged. In ancient days child marriage emerged as a great problem for girls. To abolish this, in 1927 the government passed Consent bill, which invalids the marriage of a girl under the age of 12. and in 1929, the child marriage restraint act set 16 and 18 years as the minimum age of marriage for a girl and boy respectively. Later in 1978 the amendment t of the Sarda Act prescribes the marital age of men and women should be 21 and respectively.
Now, lets get into the discussion. These laws are made on the basis of the custom and religious practices that are rooted in the patriarchy. These religious practices implement the male domination so as the laws. They indirectly insist that male should be the head and female should respect him because of the age difference. At the age of 18, a girl just completes her schooling and start to think about her career. Is this an age of marriage?
Although the government did not insist that every woman should get married at the age of 18. Because of the poverty, many parents force their daughters to get married earlier. This drastically affects not only her life but also her future generation. At that age, she not even knows much about the society, then how can able to manage her family.
at the same time, the marital age of boys is 21. At this age, he is graduated and mostly get employed in a company. When he is married to a woman who is younger than him as well as not much educated. He will dominate her and mostly insult her. In future, if she is willing to go for a work, he won’t allow her. His ego won’t accept that.
At last, I end up by saying that the marital age should be same. Woman is equal to man in all sakes of the life. This should be the same even at the minimum age of marriage.

[Dharani Sri]

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I would like to start with a question ‘who decides the expiry date of a woman?’ in most of the cases women are not allowed to follow her dream after marriage. This is either insisted by her own family members or by her husband and in-laws.
After marriage her husband ask her to take care of the family and to maintain the household chores. She is forced to give up her dreams. They do not understand that a woman is capable of maintaining both her career and her family. A woman is strong both physically and psychologically. When a woman refused to give up her career and choose career over family, many great people will her some great titles such as ‘selfish’, ‘not a perfect woman’ and many more.
Because of this, many women are taught from their childhood to give first priority to her family than her career. One third of the women choose their family over career without any compulsion. These women think that the titles like idle woman, idle mother, idle daughter as great acknowledgements for their work as a housewife, as a woman who give-up her dreams and who chose family over career. This will give satisfaction for that few women. But for others, it is a burden for them. They leave their dream because of the mental stress.
At last, I end up by saying that there is no specific time for a woman to give up her career. The decision must be her own decision. She has the ability to maintain the balance between work and life. There is no expiry date for a woman and know one has the right to decide her expiry date. Every woman should not give up her career, they should chase their dream until they are satisfied. There are many living role models, who gradually develop in the career as well as in maintain their family. Every woman should remember that there are no limits until and unless we decide.

[Dharani Sri]

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Yes, menstrual education is a major concern. Menstruation is just a biological sign that her sex hormones and physical growth are normal. Many girls think it as a problem because they are not educated enough about that biological factor.
Menstrual education is not only important for girls but also for boys. Because they are the other sex who travels with a girl in all the stages of her life right from her birth to her death. The education about menstrual hygiene is an important issue worldwide. A research conducted in 2010 has revealed that girls who are using sanitary pads are only 18% and rest of them are using unhygienic clothes or products to absorb the menstrual flow. This is not only because of the lack of education on this factor but also the thought in their mind which makes them feel shy to buy the sanitary pads.
In the ancient days they insisted the women to be separated from the house during her menstrual days. But this is the 21st century. We should wash out such a nasty myth. Using sanitary pads will protect them from being affected by cancer and other such bacterial infections in the vagina. In the places northern Uttar Pradesh, many girls bath less frequently and use unhygienic products which leads to many health issues including sexual problem.
The other reason is many women are poor to buy sanitary products. To help these girls’ government offer sanitary pads in the government hospitals at the free of cost. They have pads in their hand but they don`t know how to use it. In schools’ girls should be taught about this in detail. In home the mother should feel free to talk about this with her daughter. But in most of the cases the mothers do not talk about this. And that’s why their daughters are also feel shy to speak about the menstruation and try to hide her menstruations from the elders and other men.
I end up with a point that the education about menstruation and sex should be taught in schools and awareness should be made to abolish the rubbish thought about this BLOODY NATURE! At last, I request every man to watch PADMAN movie, in which they showed the concept that periods are just nature and using pads are not a sin!

[Dharani Sri]

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Indian women are mostly expected to be homely. Because there is an old-fashioned myth in every culture that is kitchen is the only space for women. Although it is old fashioned many of the people still follow this nasty myth. Because of this many parents teach their daughter to do all the home chores. Every woman is insisted to be homely since their childhood. this leads women to believe that if they hunker down and do good works, they will be appreciated. But this is not going to work. Woman who understands this and raise her voice against these non-sense myths. If she opens up her mouth and talk about her dream, she needs to hear words like “when you step out of that box, things get difficult”. This is on one side. The other side is the groom always expect a homely girl. What homely girl in this case refers to? A homely girl is the one who spend her whole day in doing home chores, satisfying their in-laws and more and more but she should not go out explore her passion. This is what homely girl refers to, right? Can`t a working woman be a good wife? There are many examples in the society where a working and successful woman have also contributed much to her family and raised her children well. The society is not updated and still the groom and their in-laws expect a homely woman because she is the one who obeys their orders without any obsession and she is the one who works like a slave all day long forgetting dreams.
The society says a woman perfect if and only if she is decent in her dressing, doesn’t raise her voice and do all the chores and work like a slave. This is why Indian women are expected to be homely.

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