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    Families have always wanted women to carry their bloodline forward to the next generation, wherein giving birth to their own children has always been a forced decision upon the women. A woman who can’t give birth to a child is not considered worthy of getting married in their family because she’s unable to carry forward their family’s bloodline. Adopting a child is a noble cause where a mother not only gets a child but a parentless child also gets a family. Adopting a child should never be a reason to discriminate women, by adopting children and feeding them until they stand upon their feet, women faces a lot of criticism but all she sees is a bright future to the children she adopts. Adopting children is not a topic to be criticised on.

    Mayuravarshini Mohana
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    Women with adopted children are looked at with a staunch sense of disapproval. The discrimination is partly owed to the taboo around adoption and the rest concerns the sanctification of motherhood. It is indeed ironic that with the kind of stifling emphasis placed on motherhood, a woman who embraces it through unconventional means is criticized. Indian society is simply too hard set on the traditional idea of a family. The taboo against adoption is one of the manifold problems that stem from this dogma. Adoption is a sharp deviation from established conventions of ‘family’ and ‘lineage’ and a woman who pursues it is met with social and cultural disapproval. The fundamental purpose of marriage, in India, is to protract the family line. On this ground, adopting a child is viewed as counterintuitive. Too much value is placed on the strait-laced notions of passing on the blood line and family genes.

    With infertility rates in India skyrocketing there has been a significant advancement in medical intervention. With so many infertility treatment centres mushrooming, couples have an opportunity to exhaust their chances at conception. Adoption most often than not is not considered an option. When a woman chooses to adopt, she is most often assumed to be infertile. Though there is much awareness in urban areas regarding infertility, a considerable section of the Indian population still places the blame on women. Such ‘barren’ women, a very cruel and offensive term, are ostracized and subjected to humiliation. The same understanding extends to the perception of adoptive mothers and a similar treatment is meted out to them.

    The growing awareness on adoption presents us with the hope that such blinkered and discriminative attitudes will be soon wiped away. Adoption is a wonderful opportunity to provide a healthy and stable life to those children without access to it. Every child has a right to a nurturing environment and it is inhuman to deny it, especially on the grounds of narrow-minded sentiments.

    PALAK KASHIV
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    Yes, most of the people in society discriminate the women for adopting children. Our Indian society has a preconceived notion that women should have only to their blood child but this is very backward thinking. Some women face complications for conceiving the baby, some women are models they can’t hamper their figure, women’s who are in the army they adopt a baby there can be various reasons behind adopting the baby. It does not matter it’s your child or adopted one what matters is how much care and attention we give to a child. People should normalize this thing and through adoption, it gives new lives to both women and children and a bright future for child .people always have something to say. We have to break stereotypes and patriarchy. Discrimination can cause a bad affect on the child .the same-gender couples mostly adopt the child. We have to accept this change. Parents have understood the feeling of the child they need to make the child happy not facing any problem. Parents need to make sure child is loved unconditionally make them strong ready to face the world if somebody makes fun of them they should reply them without being emotional. Stop the discrimination every woman has the right to be a mother.

    simran arora
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    Yes, in many cases, society discriminates against a woman with adopted children. It is more disheartening to witness that people’s disapproval of questioning a mother’s choice not to give birth but adopt the children. Again, it is necessary to have children after marriage. Even if a woman does not have a child after marriage, society judges her, and this judgment continues to adopted children.

    Society’s disapproval of adopted children leads to stereotypical ideas of continuing a family’s name. Anyhow, a family name will go forward with adoption too. If a woman wants a child to settle in life with adoption, it should be her choice. There is no wrong in any action as far as the mother and the child are happy with each other.

    A woman’s choice to adopt children could be anything like infertility or the choice of not giving birth. If we discuss the population in India, we have the second-largest population in the world. What worst things can happen if one chooses to adopt a few children and benefits society. Sadly, we don’t view it from this perspective. Many children are born and die without any family love. No one looks after this, and when a woman finally does, society judges her.

    Even when a woman chooses to adopt a child without marriage, society judges her as a single mother and sympathizes with a negative outlook. It is easy to conclude the identity of a woman even if she intended to do good. We are far behind the idea of acceptance in terms of adoption and choosing not to give birth.

    VIPASHA .
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    Discrimination in a society is very common especially when a woman is unable to convince . Pregnancy and the feeling of pregnancy is very e different it cannot be fine in words . But there are many women who are not unable feel this and can’t get this happiness because she is unable to conceive due to which many times the women remain unmarried . Then it seems that a woman is considered to be a machine to produce children, which if work, then it is fine and if do not, then it is of no use and does not have any value.
    There are many women who are not able to conceive or don’t want to be pregnant but want a baby so they decide to adopt child . Society and the family never accept that adopted children since for them the child is not a part . And that women is always blamed for this . If family always wanted baby of their online so that the generation will go on. In India, the biggest motive for getting married is to pursue your dynasty. After marriage, she is expected to become mother as soon as possible and if this does not happen then she has to face the taunts of all the family members , her in-law and the society. Women who are not able to become mothers, they never get the respect that other women get . Without knowing reason , what were the circumstances , situation . They simply rains water on her and says that you are cursed at being a woman who you cannot give a child.
    Adoption , gives new lives to both women and children and a bright future for child and happiness to women . The society does not want this they always don’t that mother that child and never let them live their own life. They don’t even think that if women is adopting is child it doesn’t mean she cannot give birth to child maybe she is a model or heroine , maybe she is in army , maybe it’s against a job requirement or may be health issues . But our society adopting child means the woman is not able to conceive . The society never accepts women who adopt children and also refuses to consider it a part of their festivals. We need to grow up and we need to grow up or thinking also .

    anshika agarwal
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    Yes! Society discriminate against women with adopted children. Because in India every family wishes to have a child of their own as he has to take the famile ahead. It should definitely a blood relation.
    It’s disheartening and disgusting thing a women can face. When some women have complications in conceiving. She is given different names by the society or she is said incomplete by the society. People pass on irrelevant comment on her. Seems like men marry women just for having kids who can take their descendant ahead. It can be her choice to either conceive or not. Society is no one to judge her. When she adopt a child, society still pass on comments on her and the husband’s family also not wish to give someone’s else child their name. They traumatize women and make her weak. Due to which she started feeling incomplete by herself. If a women adopted a child then he/she never given the full love by the family. And if after some years if women conceive and have her own baby society start discriminating in both the child. The love second child get is always higher then the adopted one. It always hurts the mother because as a mother she loves both of her children equally. But society discriminates, if she raises voice against the same she is beaten and ignored. If an unmarried woman wishes to adopt a child then she is being judged by the society.
    Society should stop discriminating. If both the mother and child are happy with each other than society is nobody to judge them and discriminate against her.

    DISHA SAPKALE
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    Yes, Most of the people are still their in society who discriminate against women with adopted children. In some family they don’t want adopted child they think like it’s not our blood child because of which they don’t support her for adoption of child. To adopt a child mother should have patience and caring nature towards kids. Because to adopt a child it is very difficult process one should have all the documents and they also check your background for child so that the child don’t get into any kind of trouble. To be an mother of adopted child is not esay they has to go with difficult process and need to fight against society judgements towards her. Many women face complications to be pregnant and sometimes the complications can’t get solved due to which they adopted children because every women in the world wants to be mother. In that also society start commenting on them that they haven’t take care of herself because of complications happens and child is not of family blood, etc. Women who adopt children without getting married people start judging her. Single mother with adopted child has to face lot of problems because to take care of child with office work sometimes it is difficult but they manage their time for their child but society don’t leave them with their poking and commenting on them due to which it affect on her child mental health. Society should rather support them or don’t do anything which will hurt them. In today’s generation many of the celebrities has adopted child in that Sushmita Sen is one of best example of being strong, independent and confident single mother because of which many women get strong and motivate to be single mother. Society should stop discriminate women for adoption of children it is totally their life and decision to have adopt a child or not.

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    DOES SOCIETY DISCRIMINATE AGAINST WOMEN WITH ADOPTED CHILDREN
    Yes, society discriminates against women who adopt a child. Society has always something to say to women either she is doing something good and earning and managing everyone or even if she doesn’t do anything, all are ready with their unasked suggestions and advice.
    If a woman wants to adopt there may be reasons like complications in pregnancy or not able to conceive but that doesn’t mean she is incapable or not at par with other women around her. And if a child is adopted it will be mutually decided between partners but discrimination still appears and they are taunted by not only outsiders but family members too.
    Women as soon as married is expected to plan for the child and make a family so that society doesn’t talk ill about family and in-laws but her decisions are not considered and pressurize them for this. And above all, if she is unable to give birth due to some reasons then they blame her personally. Many people talk about adopting a child and growing them in as part of the family but in reality, very few do this.
    Society still discriminates but there nothing that can stop women from doing some good work and by adopting she is giving life to an orphan which is not less than giving birth.

    Shumaila Siddiqui
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    Yes, our society discriminate the women with adopted children. They look at them, like they have done some major sin by adopting a child and not having a biological child is their crime.
    Women’s are now working, and they don’t wish to have a biological child because of the time period, and they think they have to wait for so long to have a child. Instead, they opt for an adoption.
    Society is still hesitant to accept the fact that adoption is better than biological child, it makes a whole future of an unknown child with a better upbringing. Women are being given names that these women are not good because she doesn’t want to have child and rather she is finding an easy way to have child. But what they realize is that adoption is a noble cause as a society and more adoption should be held with the stable families who can afford to have child’s responsibility.
    Sushmita Sen was only 24 years old when she bravely took a decision to adopt a girl child and not one, but she adopted two of them. She was a single mother, and time has proven that she nailed the motherhood without actually having her own child.
    We can’t let society make us fear to go for adoption, and we should be concerned about the image and perception society is going to assume about you.
    Some people say adopted child will be never yours as he is not your blood, but if a child is nurtured in affectionate manner they can never betray their parents who made their whole life.
    Motherhood is a choice and there is not a perfect one way to be a mother. You can choose how you want to embrace motherhood and don’t let anybody tell how you should it, Remember “your body your choice”.

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