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When there is domestic violence at home, it is the women who are assumed to be most affected by it. While women are affected by it, it is also important that we take into account the trauma that the domestic violence afflicts upon the kids present at the moment. Being forced to watch their father beating their mother is going to leave them traumatized and have an early view about how married couples live. This causes a very distorted idea about married life and they grow up to be affected in such ways that they act the same way towards their wife or keep mum when the husband does it to them because they think it is normal in every household.
Seeing a woman being beaten up, creates an image of of women being weaker than men in the minds of the kids. This moulds their way of thinking as they grow up.
They always think that it is okay for men to be controlling and violent, while women are supposed to be submissive and silent. This affects their way of thinking in many ways.
Little girls assume that there is only so much they can do, and so they give up on trying to be better or aim higher than what men aim for. At the same time, little boys inmagine that they are more powerful and girls cannot do much because they are weak and are supposed to stay weak. This causes a sense of superiority complex in them and turns them into spoilsports or makes them unfair, when it comes to healthy competition with women.
On the other hand, some kids are so traumatized that they react to the tiniest sound, flinch at the tiniest movements and are scared of anything that they think might cause them harm, like they watched their mother go through. They can become crybabies or never cry at all. It can also leave many kids with different disorders, one being very cautious of the surroundings around them or another being extra violent. This depends on the kids’ behaviour or choices they make after the incident.
They might become very detached with their parents or become afraid of sharing things with them because they are afraid of the consequences that may follow. Either way it leaves the family in a very dysfunctional position that it is very hard to go back to the way it was before.
Therefore, men, the next time to decide to raise your hand against women in your household remember that the kids are watching and may do the same to you, when you are older. 🙂
Never domestic violence happens, there is no single with them in it. it affects everyone who is in the family. Generally, repeat that only the women involved in domestic violence are the one who suffers the most, but if we look at a broader picture of the whole situation, then we can find that children of a broken family have to suffer as much as the receiver of the domestic violence. the kind of mental pain and mental trauma that they have to go through often get had noticed and he had to live with the scars for the rest of their life. Children raised in a family which has been domestic violence on a regular basis, aggravate the and problem it is highly likely that they may help in continuing the circle of domestic violence in the future.
The main problem with the children raised in a problematic family is that they learned to normal life such things which are problematic in themselves. Boys, it is ok to beat a person of the opposite gender, that females are weak and it is ok to control them. Girls on the other hand learn the opposite, they learn to be adjustive towards many kinds of harassment that they have to face on a daily basis and that it is ok to survive in a toxic relationship.
Mental health issues associated with domestic violence are also so grave. In the worse cases, a broken home has raised many psychopaths, narcissists,s and other extreme personalities, which if gone undetected can be harmful to society. The perpetrators of the infamous nirbhya Delhi rape case in 2013 were emboldened in their efforts because they were a product of domestic violence. Other mental health issues include lack of emotional outflow, being anxious/ fearful, not being able to make healthy relationships, etc.
It is high time now that the stigma attached to mental health issues be removed, and these things should be made normal. The victims must be given acceptance in society. With proper counseling, they can be healed too.We all are aware about domestic violence and How a woman is affected by it. Domestic violence traumatise a woman Mentally and make her feel depressed . But not only women are affected by domestic violence , the small children who lives with their parents and see this regularly in front of their eyes are deeply affected by this. At the age of playing and studying they have to face this violence in their family due to which they cannot Live their childhood happily.
After seeing this condition in their home both the girl child and the boy child affected but in a different way as we talk about girls when girls see her mother beating like this she just aim To be successful in life and Become independent whereas a boy start Thinking woman is a weaker part of society whom they can exploit as much as they want even though they don’t have any right And this create a mentality of superiority complex in the mind of boys. In in small villages When a girl see her mother beaten up like this They keep in mentality that girls need to adjust and girls have to adjust in this society in their home everywhere they don’t have rights to raise their voice and do whatever the men want.Many times children get traumatised and live their whole life in depression they want to take stand but they can’t which kill them deeply and slowly.
There are many situation And cases in which the small children run from their home due to the regular fight and domestic violence in their home They’re fed up of all these things and cannot handle all this stuff in this Small age.
Effect of domestic violence just decide to divorce her husband but in this situation the children has to choose anyone either they have mother or their father. Which means they will not get love of their mother. And they Also have to face this society and their tunts.
Men have to think twice before raising their hand towards a woman he should think about How it would affect their children all.Almost 275 millions children are exposing to violence at home and almost 75% women say that their children are abused by their abusers , a very good life of a children get fill with disturbing thoughts about their parents , children get affected by seeing domestic violence , while children go outside for playing games or studying …. everywhere they only think about fight of their parents , the children’s never involve fully in any activity just because of this violence which they see everyday , All this thing not only affect their recent time but also future! They live every day of their life not easily but complicated.This review finds that children and adolescents living with domestic violence are develop cognitive or language problems , hearing and speech problems , stress related physical illness increased risk of experiencing emotional, physical and sexual abuse, of developing emotional and behavioral problems and of increased exposure to the presence of other adversities in their lives. Every kid think to live their every day of life with parents but because of violence they stay away from parents , they not talk to them , they never share anything , They stayed away from parents just because of violence. Every parents need to think on this because this is very sensitive topic and because of seeing violence everyday children also hate their own life , Many cases reported where children take their own life just because of this one thing ” VIOLENCE “. When they grow up people with childhood trauma may experience “flashbulb” memories in which they remember vivid moments but not the full event . Violence at home turn a child’s world into chaos , Children’s who suffer from violence they more prone to abusing drugs and alcohol . Children have right to happy and safe existence, and it is everyone responsibility to ensure that this right is granted to them.
Domestic violence as we know mostly affect our women. Having a distorted relationship with distorted mentalities lead to it. And every one of us acknowledge that, discuss about it. But what about the children who is living within a room with those distorted relationship? A family is supposed to be loved. As a child we expect our parents and family members to be around us and build a happy relationship. But what if that children is looking at the most horrible sight of his life?
We, normal people, despite of living in a patriarchal society, often refuse to admit that our father or brother is also a part of it and of course nobody expect that to be. But here, a mere child who is not enough familier with those Hallaboolas of life, witness such a pathetic crime. According to psychology , they live in a constant state of fear where they even blame themselves as cause of these distorted relationship. Furthermore such a state lead to be the victims of children abuse by 15%.
Ok leave those number and just talk about children’s normal behavior- that our children portrait that behavior outside which they have seen inside their house. As a primary result they ought to be an adult who is either depressed or presenting such a disgrace to not only their women but tp their friends and family and often experience inability to express emotions, to establish a bond with someone, which even lead to anxiety, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), insomnia and so on.
Though there’s certain ways like ‘play therapy’ , making a safe environment all around them, keeping them busy with a loving adult to decrease these affects. But lastly, if you are his/her family, then it’s your duty to go them a well bringing and safe environment . Solve your problems, your children are not the path that solve your problems, they should not be emerged within your mistakes.DOES DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AFFECT CHILDREN AT HOME?
Domestic violence is a term used to describe any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling and threatening behavior or violence. It can be physical, sexual, emotional or financial and domestic violence has now been emerged on social networking sides, mobile phones, etc. So, violence has or been seen not only at home but outside home too.
What happens at home have very drastic effect on children too. Its very upsetting for them to see their parents involved in abusing or attacking each other. It also depends on children’s mentality or age like younger children may act and analyses that scenario in very fearful way and they themselves are feared from this, while elder children react differently and express very forwardly. Not only they what happens but they also experience all of it and then that all affects their personality, health, emotional, and social behavior too.
Effect on children can be long term, short term and what should a child do? when he /she witnesses that scenario. At very young age child becomes mature and tries to understand the things happening around them. Many a times, they feel ashamed of what they see and can’t share what they feel with anyone and it affects them wholly as an individual.
There can arise some symptoms of disorder like Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, Fatigue, sleeping disorder. Behavior of that children are likely to be regressing, irritating, acting tough, not able to maintain bond with others, etc. So domestic violence is not only related to two people but it also affects each individual around them.“You are not a victim for sharing your story, you are a survivor setting the world on fire with truth. And you never know who need your light, your warmth and raging courage”-Alex Elle.
Witnessing domestic violence in the home is considered to be one of the most traumatic and severe traumas that any child can experience. A family experiencing domestic violence faces numerous complications, and children who witness domestic violence in the home often believe that they are to blame, live in a constant state of fear, and are 15 times more likely to be victims of child abuse. Children exposed to domestic violence are found to be at much greater risk of stress, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, as well as of suicide, and substance abuse. The effects that witnessing domestic violence in the home has on children tend to vary but often result in one or more strong feelings of mistrust, a feeling of a constant need to seek safety, high levels of aggression, and delinquency.
Domestic violence is most often used to maintain and increase the power and control of one family member over another. The violent act instills fear in the child that they could become a victim, leading them to remain silent about what happens in the home. According to the United States Department of Health and Human Services, children who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to experience physical abuse themselves. While this information alone is enough to prove that children also suffer emotional and psychological consequences in addition to the fact that they live in an abusive and violent environment, witnessing something so unsettling can have a significant effect on their development.
Children of different ages are affected in very different ways due to domestic violence.
• The most vulnerable times in the child’s life are in the womb and during the first several years of life. The potential for serious mental problems seems to be greatest when a child’s father perpetrates violence against the mother.
• Early childhood abuse is a serious and widespread problem. The effects of violence on children develop over time as children develop. These effects can appear in various ways, such as eating disorders or sleeping problems and can even be evident when children begin to talk and attend school.
• The National Survey on Drug Use and Health found that 58% of the people who first used an illicit drug did so before they were 18 years old. Adolescents who are exposed to violence may be at a higher risk of substance misuse or of either perpetrating or becoming victims of dating violence.Being a victim of domestic violence is terrifying. It goes beyond fear and terror, wiping away all sanity. Fear that I would not survive my experience as a victim of domestic violence was always present. Being violently attacked evolved into terrifying experiences when the violence was aimed at my children. Children are reliant upon their parents or guardians for their safety and well-being; they did not choose to be born, nor can they provide for themselves. They rely on their parents or legal guardians for survival. And yet somehow we fail to take care of them.
Domestic Violence is one of the evil truths since our past. If we look children mind are very innocent what they see around them either they react like that or they start developing hatred towards it because small memories leave big scares. Probably if children are exposed to an uneven or unsuited environment they develop these conditions. 10 Out of 6 children across the world are suffering some or other form of violence.
If we look into the issue of domestic violence is not only happens with women but sometimes children also. Even if the Indian parliament has passed the act of domestic violence 2005 but still cases of domestic violence are increasing. One main cause of domestic violence is education as these crimes usually occur in the rural region where women are usually uneducated and they believe and also taught by the elder that women are born to serve and not to oppose elder (especially husbands). This feeling of superiority within the male is boosted within the family and these values are inculcated within children during that period.
The domestic violence effect may lead to the feeling of loneliness among children, they sometimes turn against mother or father or have ambivalent regarding parents, develop of negative core or sometimes engage in drug abuse and so on.
Parents who are divorced their children sometimes develop the feeling of detest of marriage or becoming a parent in the future. Children are the future of this world and we need to protect them from this evil.
UNICEF is one of the international organizations whose main focus is to bring out children from different parts of the world from all the evil practices and bring their minds into the capacity to produce well. We should start focusing on the future as this will enhance goodwill among children and divert their energies into a better way.Domestic violence affect children at home because at some point of time it gets affect to your health also mentally disturbed and that time there no one to understand there pain and the pain gets bulidup in our mind due to that it affect our body and cause depression due to which we can’t think anything seriously. Parents should understand that violence infront of children is dangerous for there children mental health. In today’s generation violence for children is not less some parents are so strict that if children don’t listen to them they get angry in that angry they use violence for there children because of that children gets affect mentally and physically. Because of violence with themselves and their mother. It affect on there studies because of mental stress, violence all things get disturbed. It is not necessary that strict parents do that but also some teachers, maid they use violence in such a way like they slap literally and this mostly happen with babysitting some of them they don’t even take care of child at all and if the child is not listen to them they start use violence this is very wrong if parents are trusting to them then they should not do like that with children what they have done with them. Children are innocent they only want love and care. If we does that they will listen to us. Domestic Violence affect children mostly they don’t have that much of power to see such violence in home or they themselves suffer from violence. Society needs to understand there is nothing important than there children health.
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