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Since ancient times marriage is considered an auspicious part of life. In this usually girls are given away to the groom which is known as Kaanyadan. This tradition is followed in every religion with different rituals. These rituals often create the image of burden of the women as she is considered Paraya Dhan so she is treated like the alien in the family. She is denied to have a good education, she has learned cooking doing house chore work and always told how to be a good wife and mother. Is this right? Are girls born for this only? Why she cant live the way she wants? Why is she treated like a burden on the family?
This is high time we need to consider it and make changes to it. We should consider both bride and groom equally. If we will consider this it leads to mutual consent between them. They will understand the true meaning of marriage. Marriage is not just tying a knot but it is tying two people so that they can share their happiness and sorrow. There is no one superior but both is equal. This will also lead to the end of many evils such as domestic violence against women.
Women are not an object but a living being. She also has feelings she also desires things from her husband and her family. She should be treated in a good manner. It is an archaic custom but now we are living in the 21st century we should know how to be modern through changing particular mindset.
If we want to see the change in society against women we need to change these strict laws. We should consider all equal and treat all with equality.