Why are brides ‘given away’ at weddings?
Can you guess what is the biggest driving force behind Indian people to migrate from their home?
If you guessed as employment, try to guess it for one more time. The biggest migration is because of marriage. Can you believe this? But this is the fact. Among those migrants most of them are women. Why is this happening? Why can`t a man come out of his house?
“It is not a common practice or desirable culture for a Hindu son in India to get separated from his parents on getting married at the instance of the wife, especially when the son is the only earning member in the family” said the Supreme Court (SC). In India, most of the families do not subscribe to the western culture, like boys should get out of his house after marriage. This is the main reason why most of the parents give away their daughters with other gifts to the groom.
One more reason is that they have a mindset that male only can lead a family, he is the who can support the family with all their financial needs, he is the one who can form a lineage to their family. And this is followed since many years. If a woman insists her groom to come to her house after the marriage, she will be scolded. Parents insist their daughter from her very childhood that she will go to another house after marriage. But they never tell this any of the boys.
Just think, shouldn`t a woman has a wish to serve her parents who has taken care of her from her very first day at this fairy land? In this 21st century we should change this. Or at least we should change the phrase ‘a woman is given away as the gift to the groom’ with ‘she is welcomed to another home’.