It’s not really a change to have such a concept when the girl itself in her maternal home is treated as an object that can be given away or treated as an outsider. It’s also amusing how our society proudly proclaims kanyadan as ‘shresth daan’ and bidaai as the most emotional phase when these customs are actually objectifying women.
We all know there are really popular sayings that claim how a girl is an outsider who will be soon handed to a different family . People need to know that brides are not given away but respectfully welcomed in a new family. The phrases need to be changed.
Problem is with portrayal of these customs is shown as great and emotional and very sacred in those TV dramas and movies .Also the songs based on these customs habe phrases which constantly make people believe that girls are meant to get married off.
But collectively I think we should change these customs. We have people like Dia Mirza who have clearly taken bold steps to not perform kanyadaan and bidaai customs.I believe marriage should be the happiest day of the girl’s life as it is meant to be. Not some kind of process indicating she is practically given away like an object with gifts to the groom. Marriage should be a celebration marking the beginning of new life for the couple and we should tell people that we are not giving away our daughter but she is respectfully welcomed in her new home. Apart from Kanyadan and Bidaai there are also other traditions , customs and rituals which actually are contributing and creating fake scenarios or wrong perspectives a girl is seen from. We also need to stop these customs and the customs which are for fun should be treated as fun only.