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We all are aware that when two people are not able to live with each other anymore , the next step they take if divorce . And it is fine, if the two people and not enjoying each other company, not able to stay with each other, not able to continue, it’s good to mutually get separated, instead of fighting and Creating scenes .
But why this condition occur ? The one who once decided to live their life together, stay with each other for their whole life, decided to spend their sweetest memory with each other , what was the reason they are separating now ? what all about their dreams? Their wishes ? Their promises ? The only and only reason is lack of understanding, trust, faith and most important love. When all these compound comes together it makes bond, the bond of happiness, the bond of love and once these compound gets separated or destroyed , the bond of love and happiness also get destroyed .
Today’s generation is very impulsive and their decision is also very impulsive. Now making girlfriend or boyfriend, falling in love is common and it’s good this is not a crime . but it doesn’t mean whom we love at the present moment with that person only we can spend our whole life . When two people are in love they only share moments with each other , not their life. But once they get married, they have to spend their whole life together and from there they realise is they are made for each other or not . A relationship need understanding . When they two are girlfriend or boyfriend the understanding between them and understanding between husband wife is very different .
Today’s children fall in love at a very young age, they feel that they should get married now. But after getting married, both of them start having problems with each other’s small things, they are not able to adjust with each other and at the moment when their family tried to convince them that take some time it’s not a good time to get married that time due to their stubborn and impulsiveness the get married and after that the real problem start. Only and only reason is impressive decision , lack of understanding among the youth. They get married after falling in love, but when they start spending time together, a quarrel starts between them, due to which they get attracted towards others and start cheating their partner and at last get divorced. The other obvious reasons are violence, Dowry.Marriages often fail because men seek more power in a relationship? YES!! Equality should be present in every relationship whether it’s a nuptial relationship or a sibling relationship. A girl or a woman shouldn’t be considered less or more than her partner, brother or colleague. In a patriarchal society, the husband is always considered superior to the wife because he is the breadwinner of the family. The husband is expected to be the sole head of the family and he gets more respect than a wife. This is so wrong because when we do this, we are encouraging inequality, we are promoting women as weak and insufficient. A relationship is built with mutual respect and equality. The couple should consider each other as equals where neither of the partners can impose their will on the other. How can it be said that the relationship between a couple is equal? Everyone has a different meaning to their idea of equality and even if one of them is met with mutual agreement then the relationship prospers. For example, couples shouldn’t discriminate against either partner on factors like gender or salary. For example, holding the wife responsible for all the household work or casting the husband in a breadwinner role is a patriarchal norm that doesn’t support equality. Each couple has to decide the right way to share equality. If there’s respect in the relationship for each other then, equality is likely to be present in the marriage. While some marriages show us equality in marriages, some show us that social, familial pressures or misplaced self-respect can interfere with it. In most marriages, men dominance is prevalent. Men make more decisions – decisions that have an impact on both the partner and their lives. Men, as per societal norms, are discouraged from helping in household chores or child-rearing activities, as it is considered more of a woman’s responsibility. Even though women are stepping out to take up jobs, men still show reluctance towards household labour.
So equality in marriages depends on the couple and their perspectives towards the general concepts. When a person believes in the underlying societal norms then they are more likely to follow them in all their relationships. A couple needs to smash the societal norms, consider each other equals, share mutual respect and evolve to be better every day for the sake of their marriage. No marriage will fail if both understand their roles correctly. Marriage is about supporting and encouraging each other. It’s not about being better or worse. Equality and respect and unconditional love in a marriage are needed.
Marriage often fail because, all a woman does in a marriage is sacrifice and compromise. The biggest sacrifice is that a women has to leave her house and her family, go to the boys house and accept his family. She is one who is supposed to stay at home and look after her ‘new family’. She is reminded multiple times that she needs to ‘behave’ as an inferior character since she is a ‘wife’. She is told to compromise her dreams in order to fit in the boxes of ‘stereotypes’ of our society. Many women fail to pursue their education and live the lives of their dreams due to the senseless typical mindset of out society. They are not allowed to continue their education, once they are married.
Women are all- rounders! They are capable of working, earing, looking after their family, their children, managing their household but still they are taken for granted. Their efforts and hard work is often labelled as their ‘responsibility’ and are not given the respect and appreciation they deserve. Instead they are told to adhere to the societal norms, sit at home and performs their duties I.e kill their dreams, live for others and be obedient to their husbands and their family. And I believe that It is one of the biggest reason of a marriage failure. Women are suppressed which leads to conflict between the couples and ultimately they get divorced.Do marriages often fail because men seek more power in a relationship? Absolutely yes! The patriarchal society has structured men’s minds to struggle for power and to be at the top everywhere, even when it comes at the expense of the stability of a relationship.
When it comes to the relation of marriage, it’s highly uncommon to find a marriage where we don’t witness the power struggle among the couple, and more often than not, it’s the male who wants to dominate the female one. This leads the wife to feel inferior in the relationship as she feels unheard most of the time. This in turn creates a huge communication gap in the relationship which is one of the biggest reasons for the failure of any relationship. So yes, marriages definitely fail because men seek more power in a relationship.
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