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    Tanima
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    We already have become aware about importance of Martial arts, specially in women’s life as rape, sexual assault, unwilling touch are increasing day by day. It’s absolutely necessary to make practicing martial arts in daily life to make our female feel physically and mentally strong.
    However in today’s world, not everyone is used to make a place for martial arts in practice. Or maybe not everyone is in a suitable condition of it. But is being weak should imply that she is deserved to be assaulted? Of course not.
    Among these situation, there’s a handy solution, called martial adornment.
    Yes, it actually means to the dress code, or weapons like sword or shield and many customs have their own adornment.
    Though it’s absolutely not so very good thing to carry a man-killing weapon with ourselves.
    So what’s the big idea about the martial adornment?
    These things basically comes from our ancestor women who were expected to stay in a safer palace, cook, feed, do household works and most necessarily, no need to involve in war, whether to protect your kingdom or yourselves. Thus, no need to carry or practice swing a sword by yourself. But it’s absolute to somehow, somewhere foes tried to attacked and get their hands on female.
    So then they usually used the most common but powerful things which comes handy and protect themselves by attacking the sensible points. This is what we’re using in our modern area too. Tools like pepper spray, sharp spoon, sharp knife etc.
    Ok, so if you ask about importance, we can say that our mother or if we go to rural areas, even sisters and daughters too are not much aware about martial arts and it’s importance. Either they had no idea about it or don’t know where and how to be taught. In these case, martial adornments come handy. And according to me, even before we’re teaching martial arts, we should make our girls use the adornments as, first of all they come handy, easy to carry, easy to be taught how to use, can be useful against minor numbers of men or any kind of agitation.
    So, it’s absolutely a better thought as rape and physical assault is increasing aggressively without any specified age. If we want our women to stand strong, it’s absolutely necessary to protect and strengthen every one of them without discriminating on age, surrounding and thus martial adornment is being vital in modern world.

    anshika agarwal
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    Marital adornments impact women’s life in a bad way. Advertisements are made for enriching the stereotypes among the people. The way in which men and women are represented in advertisements show the stereotypes of men and women happening in the society.
    Why it is considered that fasting for husband after marriage results in his long life? Why their is no concern for women’s long life? Why Rajasthani married women’s have to wear plastic bangles? They even can’t remove them at the time of sleeping. People say that it protects them from evil’s eyes. She has to wear 26 bangles in one hand after her marriage.Why it is believed that women wearing mangalsutra protects the husband from unfortunate events? If it is lost or broken or women not wore it people assume it as unfortunate and a bad sign. People don’t think that by these things it would be difficult for women in their daily household works. We all had listened the famous dialogue of Bollywood movie Om Shanti Om, “Ek chutki sindoor ki keemat tum kya jaano Ramesh babu”. It means that at the end of the day the cost of sindoor is fulfilled by women only. Women’s body is changed by society by so many things after marriage from outside. These things help a person to know whether the women is married or not. These things shows husband’s rights on women’s body.
    Therefore, marital adornments impact women’s lives a lot

    shaifalikapoor03
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    Marriage has been a tough task for all the women around the country, the traditions, duties and responsibilities of a woman increases after she gets married, in india a woman has to sacrifice alot in her marriage than her husband, marital adornments on the other hand becomes a great responsibility for women, society constantly seeks women to follow all the traditions made for a married woman, every religion has different adornments. Hindu women needs to apply ‘sindur’, wear bangles after marriage. These adornments decide women’s position in a society, and decided whom she’s entitled to, these marital adornments are a constant reminder to women of their duties and responsibilities which are almost none to men. Woman’s body has been adorned according to the customs. Dasgupta, a famous journalist mentions when a woman applies red sindoor, she is seen as sexually desirable and passionate. Does it indicate that the woman is sexually available for the husband since she is supposed to put sindoor everyday throughout her marriage? It does create the issue of marital rape amongst people. Women in rajasthan are adorned to wear ivory bangles throughout their married life, they’re not allowed to remove them even at the time they sleep, they say it protects their marriage from evil. Why is it supposed to be women suffering from all these adornments? These Marital adornments according to the society basically stands for how men own women, which needs to be changed.

    DISHA SAPKALE
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    In marriage women has to sacrifice and compromise on many things because society teaches girls from childhood that they has to make sacrifices and compromise after marriage. Women are always asked to adjust with all the things than men. Their are many Marital Adornments for women after marriage and every religion has different marital adornments. From old times, women has to follow all the marital adornments compulsory after marriage. Their are many Marital Adornments for women like wearing mangalsutra, applying sindoor, wearing bangles, Bindi, Nose ring and many more. In Rajasthan women after marriage used to wear ivory or plastic bangles and madaliya known as mangalsutra, if any married women is not wearing madaliya than it will be consider as widow women. After marriage, Maharashtrian women has to compulsory wear mangalsutra, green bangles and toe ring. In advertising also their are lots of stereotypes towards women. At workplace, many working women has to face difficulties due to wearing lots of bangles which will make her uncomfortable for typing Emails. Due to lots bangles while sleeping the noise of bangles will disturb her and it will be uncomfortable to sleep with lots of bangles. Their are many working women has to do household chores and take care of the family due to which it gets difficult for women to get use to with marital adornments. Society will not think of women difficulties they will always make them to follow the traditions. Atleast they should reduce the bangles quantity to wear due to which it will some where help women to manage the household chores and at work life. It will also get benefit her to have good sleep by wearing less bangles. Marital adornments are compulsory but on other side, we should understand women who faces difficulties with it. Society should have concern for women before forcing her to do adornments they should keep minimum marital adornments for women.

    Yash Tiwari
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    The stereotypical representations of men and women in advertisements are mostly the same for each other. They involve child-like characters, non-achievements, habits, and objects (along with only a few empowering qualities). How children perceive the world has a big impact on their future lives. Several marriage adornments are being advertised by the companies for promoting the business. The adornments which women wear on different body parts are having an impact on their lives.

    Society needs to change the way of thinking towards women who are considered as property. As girls are brainwashed from birth to accept this stereotype, they start believing this themselves. They believe that they have no right to choose what kind of jewelry do they want and who do they prefer living with. The use of adornments suggested by the advertisements gives a false sense of being loved and cared for in the families. The advertisements that are made for women emphasize the body and facial aspects of women as their selling point. When compared to men, there is a tendency to show lesser focus to obtain a ring on the finger or adornment. The idea is to show more skin and attract the opposite sex to sell more of the jewelry. Many advertisements these days use some kind of advertisement on the wife, such as jewelry. I have come across many men being excited about getting a new ‘designer watch’ for their old bride, and other similar things.

    In other words, men are always shown as the provider in the advertisements, women on the other hand are always leisurely or passive. The role of men is always to show that they can provide and can enjoy their life if their wives can do domestic work properly while women have to be portrayed as someone sensitive enough to home-related activities. Advertisements generally show both husband and wife together although the female is emphasized more who is showing some feminine characteristics like carrying a baby while the male partner is supposed to do something manly.

    Marriage is considered a symbol of love, faithfulness, and trust between two persons. They meet each other’s requirements and thus they live together in happiness and harmony. Both males and females wear different types of adornments to show that both are in love with each other. Though wearing adornments makes females look more beautiful females don’t need to wear them all the time at the workplace or even after marriage. In India, people have to observe many traditions and rituals. Despite this, women are not allowed to wear too many types of ornaments. This is totally against the constitution of India which provides equal rights for men and women. Furthermore, the dowry system is also there in India led by society and it plays a vital role in their lives. These traditions are also responsible for making women suffer from domestic violence in our Indian society today.

    PALAK KASHIV
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    Society says marital adornments are signs of married women they have to wear after women get married perform rituals and it’s been legacy and part of the tradition, all women are told to wear Bindi, mangal sutra, sindoor, bangles and wear anklets and bichiya, women are not allowed to remove this even if it is causing trouble to them. I think it is women choose to wear it nobody has a right force women to wear it and shame them if they are not like to wear or all perform ritual just to show society that they care about their husband, because never asked to do fasting for his women long life, women are told to keep fast without even drinking water, what about her health, in name of religious beliefs they can tell women to perform every ritual, today women’s are working they cannot able to manage they are not allowed to wear these marital adornments in professional meeting and presentations. Also, advertisements and Tv shows are not nicely portraying it. community people get influence by it but they are promoting they should try to show in a way that its choice on women they want carry marital adornment. Because of this women will get liberty and also will accept this happily. Marital adornments are the indication about how men own a woman, earlier people used to say this eldest Indian books it is mention in that book when women wear sindoor and bindi they look more desirable and passionate to their man. Some women are breaking these stereotypes they do not regularly wear marital adornment and they have the open mindset that they have faith in God, and husband they need to show through wearing anything. please respect the women decide if they want to accept adornments or not.

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    Publicity is renowned for stereotyping among the public. They are not innocuous results of popular cultural activities but are socially manufactured images which, in their portrayals of men and women, are often one dimensional and skewed. The way men and women are represented in advertising also contributes to maintaining and strengthening current male and female stereotypes. It is also a significant factor in socialization and influences adults’ and children’s views and sex behavior.
    In this case, the distinction between sexes is a product of particular standards that these ladies must observe, such as the wearing of these adornments. They are not universal and differ across cultures and cultures. These standards are also established in accordance with the spatial-temporal dimension. A third person shall determine if a woman has or does not have to follow certain standards (adornments). In reproducing social interactions, women and men both accept their place and their position, husbands, unmarried, upper-caste males. Self-defense opens up to women in an imperfect society this source of freedom. Building confidence in the abilities of physical resistance helps women feel better and more at home in settings that may be dangerous since they know the appropriate strategies to help fight an assailant.
    Self-defense is extremely important in the world in which we live today, especially for women. Women are generally easier targets, usually referred to as the weaker sex. Self-defense for women has become more necessary than ever, in a country like India where there is an increasing incidence of gender violence, many of which go unreported. Women should know the measures to be taken under various unfavorable scenarios. For example, you should hurriedly go to your kitchen to obtain chili powder and knives that are used as weapons if you’re alone at home during such an attack.

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    A stereotype is an over-generalized belief or thinking about a particular person, a group of people or a situation. Even if you don’t think about it you are constantly creating mental models and stereotyping the world around you. Our stereotypes are created by our experiences. On one side it’s good as it enables us to quickly make a decision, on the other hand, negative stereotypes affect us and the people around us badly.
    Marital adornments may not seem harmful at the beginning but contribute to a socially constructed image that is often one dimensional and distorted. They contribute to the gender roles and norms assigned by society. Women are hired for the job of weeping by many upper-caste families. This gives the notion that women are weak and are vulnerable to exploitation. These women are called Rudalis and are paid for crying out loud on the death of the male family members. In India, as per the Hindu rituals women wear sindoor, bangles and mangal sutra to ward off the evil eyes from the husband. It is generally the woman who fast for their husbands wishing for their long life. This may not seem so harmful but it can be uncomfortable for many women. A woman who avoids these traditions is generally not considered to be a good woman. These marital adornments are not universal and vary according to different cultures. A third person usually judges if a woman is married or not by these norms. These norms generally signify that the husbands mark a territory on their wives. Sixteen adornments symbolise the marriage status for women which increase the allure of a woman for her husband. Another strong assumption made by our society is that women are excluded from the male gaze. Adornments are a superficial branding of the flesh. The husband does not wear any kind of marker of marriage. Why is it always the woman? Sure, it makes her look beautiful. But why is she judged if she chooses to not put those on?

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    No one can deny the fact that marital adornments are patriarchal in nature. While in today’s world, you’ll find a lot of people saying that women choose to adorn themselves with these marital jewelries and other stuff, but they forget the fact that they are only speaking about the privileged women. As for women who don’t have any kind privilege? Some don’t even have the choice to get out of the four walls of their homes, let alone the choice to wear or not wear the marital adornments.

    Women have been taught to follow patriarchal norms with baseless beliefs just in the name of traditions. My question, why is it that only women are expected to carry on all these traditions? And why is it that only women are supposed to change the entire way of their dressing after marriage? From a bindi on their forehead to toerings on their toes, women are supposed to wear all these adornments in the name of tradition for the long life of their husbands. And obviously, there is no such thing present for men. People will come up with thousands of arguments for these marital adornments and tell you a lot of “scientific” facts of how these marital adornments make sense, but it does not and will never change the fact that marital adornments are patriarchal in nature and until and unless every single woman regardless of her status gets to choose to wear or not wear them.

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