2 years, 2 months ago-
“There are some values that you should never compromise on to stay true to yourself; you should be brave to stand up for what you truly believe in even f you stand alone”-Roy T.Bennett.
Compromises are a part of life and to achieve anything, you have to adjust, compromise that’s what is a belief and a reality too; taught to girls. It is said always by everyone, Do what you like; Pursue what you want; Follow your passion and dreams. But when it comes to girls and when they start doing it and following their dreams, there are some who will question them, doubt their capability, and say things like: How can a girl do that thing, Will she succeed being women, and so on.
Compromises are a part but we should not stop living our dream and just listen to what they say. When we want to achieve something determinedly, we should have the dedication that will always motivate us to achieve them.
People will always have something to say, whether you do good or not, follow your dream or not, earn well or not, etc. But listening to them and also following what they say makes no sense when you are dedicated towards something. It rightly said “Compromise for your Dream, But never Compromise on your Dream”
To make people comfortable, you don’t have to compromise on your dreams!!People always have something to say about you it doesn’t matter what you do.
Every girl should pursue her dream and passion instead of caring about society. Become what she wants to become. But it is sad to hear that very few girls accomplish their goals. Every girl has to speak for herself what she wants about her dreams I don’t understand why we always are criticized by society for following the dream. I have seen many girls drop their dreams for their family Responsibilities. Pursuing your goals gives you freedom and happiness. Girls are not just born for serving family and getting married .she to have the right to do what. Don’t kill your dreams just because people will not support you.Don’t let the fear of what could happen, make nothing happen. The secret to self-confidence isn’t just to stop caring what other people think it’s to start Caring about what you think. Make your opinion of you more important than anyone else. Please don’t allow the toxic people around you who don’t support you in your dreams to give them a reply because by fulfilling your dreams.
Gone are the days when women used to sit at home and were responsible for the household work, whereas men used to go out to earn money, party with their friends and do whatever they wanted to do. Today’s generation is a capable one to fight for their dreams and stand upon their feet. They don’t care about what people would say if women stepped out of their houses. Women today are getting educated as much as they want and are chasing their dreams without any fear. The days of compromising your dreams because of the society are so far gone because now are the days when nobody actually cares about what people would say, as people would not get you their house when you’ll be homeless, people would not give you food when you’ll be hungry, hence people do not have the right to control our lives. When it comes to fulfilling our desires, our dreams, it is us who can stand for our future, and in the end when we’ll earn the life of our dreams, the same people would appreciate you for being such a strong woman.
Be quiet !
You have only 2 year to complete your study !
Get ready , groom family will be there in an hour !
Every girl have to face this comment once in their life.
Now they have only 2 way:- either compromise their dream or to face the criticism of society . Those girl who are not able to raise their voice and stand for their dream has to accept this Harsh reality , but those who don’t care about the foolish comment and not want to fulfill their dream to face the criticising comment of society.
we all have seen many girls after 12th standard get married and do house chore.
Is girls are only for all this thing ?
Do they don’t have right , to fly?
Or it’s a global rule that , boys have only right to think to dream to fly and do what ever they want ?
These are the only people who Marry an unqualified wife and do not let her complete studies after marriage and later feel ashamed to take out along with them in parties as “she is not qualified”
I think you all are aware about this Star Plus serial “Anupama” that serial is it correct picture of the current society where women have no right to think about her self give herself time and fly in the sky…
But there is a Ray of hope, due to feminism women realising their role and importance and start valuing their dream their Wills .
Now woman has understand no one going to fulfill their dream they only have to fight for their dream and achieve them . Woman has to realise people always have something to say they will always tryto take your step back but you need to be strong and ignore all these things just focus on your goal and leave everything behind.
Just remember 1 think this society can never accept a successful women , as women have ability to work more efficiently than man and can manage everything in a positive way.
So girls , don’t think you are going wrong it’s the in-security of society.We should be thankful to all those women who gain that much of courage of taking stand for themselves and crossing the all limits and boundaries , the criticizing comments and by “not compromising and killing their dreams in silence ” just because what people says has doing good in their life and are independent now.
If you ask me, this is suited not only for women , even men too. Women in different class often experiences a silent pressure for marriage after a certain age from their household, relatives, neighbors and who not. In maximum cases, this age is not efficient to make one’s dream come true, maybe some are preparing or still taking just their first step on their way. But marriage is so important to our indian culture, that they make dreams wait until marriage.
After marriage some will say.’how can she work so late; doesn’t she has a family? ” how can she hang out with guys,must be a bitch’, questions about ability-disability,charachter analysis And so on.
As a result after marriage, most of those dreams flew away for the stigma in our society and our own mind that’ what people will say’. And the main wonder is this is not a culture among just uneducated, old cultured people. This culture is continuously going on in between our home to the higher class ever. As women doesn’t have gender equality in any class, they are often used as a asset to turn on a business with another’s profit, often as a burden who must be reduced. And sadly, no other than our own family is main culprit.
Yes, for men, they may have some extra years, but unless you are established in your own way, everyone is going to punch him and tell again and again that they must proceed to some other direction to be happy, to be successful.
Is it so? No, and everyone knows that. But we all are from that same mental hospital who are gonna stab everyone despite already being in their situation. Maybe thr circumstances are different, maybe the causes are different but result and feeling of an unfulfilled dream will remain just same.Human is such a creature who never been taught to clap for your success. Whether you get success or not, they are going to backpinch you until you start to see yourself a failure. Only few of our family and friends really support and want us to be succeed. So it’s obviously better not to listen to them and try on our own spirit.
Compromise and kill your dream in silence, just because what will people say?
In our society, ‘people’ have shattered innumerable dreams. ‘People’ have broken homes. ‘People’ have slit through relations. ‘People’ have taken lives. Who are these people; our very own society. Our society has been so fond of ‘talking’ about things and sort of cursing people by just talking about them. Probably that is why they say, “Kuch to log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna.” The society has forced people to compromise and kill their dreams in silence, just because they are afraid of what people would think or say.
Because of the society we live in, we have to follow a certain protocol that is unwritten, unjustified, and absolutely illogical and makes no sense. We happen to doubt over what the society will think of us before every task we do, every decision we make and every conclusion we take. Why do people not understand the principle of ‘live and let live?’ Is it so difficult to let others just be the way they want and do what they want? It is clearly evident how our society is more interested in lives of others than their own.
It is absolutely wrong on our part to actually consider the opinion of the society in our personal matters. It is we who will have to work after taking up a job. It is we who will suffer if the decisions we make, go wrong. It is we whose life will fall apart if we take a wrong step. Why do we listen to the society that has job other than just judging us all the time? We work hard every single day in order to achieve our aims and reach our goal points. Why should we let all that sweat and tears go in vain?
We must not compromise. We must not kill our dreams in silence, just because ‘what will people say.’ It is time. We must speak up against the pressure and limitations that the society is imposing on us. If we suffer alone, if we alone are responsible for whatever losses come our way, it must be us alone to decide for ourselves, no matter what people say, because ‘kuch to log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna.’
Shubhangini ShaktawatWhen you tell them you are about to chase your aspirations, it’s not all awful to get the “gatekeeper” perspective. Externally, though, we need to be intelligent and to know how to discern helpful criticism from negative. But letting other people’s opinions and negativity stop from following a dream is the worst thing to happen. there are so many ways in which a woman is targeted and their dreams are crushed. No one understands the pain.
A girl will live according to certain rules and social prejudices right from a small age. For example, some girls express their love with martial arts, they are really athletic and had the desire to perfect Karate, but parents do not allow them to think what people in the society say?.
It’s not wrong when the kids are happy, but it’s not good to make a kid do something that they don’t want. It is time we quit making gender-based differentiations and openly urge our girls to take care of what they want. It is disheartening to know that as the world progresses rapidly, a few parents feel it’s not worth educating girls and marrying them. There are hundreds of smart ladies who are ambitious but yet suffer because they don’t want to speak out about what they are learning and what they want to become.
Every woman must adapt and maintain the family together to the new family. But what if the new family is not working with her? Why does society forget that efforts need to be made in both directions? I see around me, that a married woman is being vilified and blamed for divorcing her husband from his parents if she decides to live separately. Why won’t anyone think of the girl, however? A girl is sometimes abused severely. It is not permissible for her to go, to dress, and to speak in a certain way. Despite this, she’s told she has an attitude and is accused of ruining her family when she calls for justice.
We observe protests and marches calling for women’s justice. If we don’t push for a woman in the house, I think all this will not help. Your woman, your sister, your mother, your boyfriend, or anybody – it’s your home that begins with respect. Respect for a woman is not merely food and a place to live for her. It represents a woman’s understanding, freedom, and freedom to express her viewsCompromise and kill your dreams just because what will others say? Yeah, a very important matter that we often ignore is the matter of compromise, but when we hear the word compromise the only gender we associate it with is female. Why? Because since the time a girl is born all she has to do is compromise. A girl has to compromise with her education because her family doesn’t have enough money to educate her along with her brother so she has to compromise her education because you know a boy’s education is very important and help the family in future while all a girl has to do when she grows up is be a homemaker and take care of her in-laws. It’s just the beginning of her compromises. If a girl completes her general studies she has to compromise her higher education for the same or other reasons. When she is getting married, the first piece of advice she gets is to “compromise” in her husband’s house because she is a woman. Women are made to compromise because men don’t have this feature in them right? Well, it is a sad truth that even though a man can compromise too but it’s always a woman who’s been told to do so! When a girl wants to pursue an unconventional profession, she gets no support and hence she has to compromise for less than what she dreamt of, in the same way in a workplace, she has to compromise numerous times because that’s the way the world works. Let’s take an example, suppose both husband and wife are working in their dream jobs and the responsibility of a child comes into their life. Who will be told to compromise? Everyone knows the answer, of course, the wife will be told to stop working to look after the child. Why not a man? Some will say a child needs a mother the most! No, this is not true that a child needs only a mother, a child needs a father the same way they need a mother. Still, a woman is told to compromise.
Women have always been compromising in their lives because of the fear of other people’s judgment. A woman has to compromise and kill her dreams just because a random stranger judges her and points a finger at her character. This is not how this world will prosper, this is only a matter of great concern. If a woman has to compromise and kill her dreams just because of someone’s opinion than this is not just a woman’s loss but the loss of everyone in our society.Very rightly stated has been a notion of our Indian society that comprises by a woman be it in her marriage, in her workspace, in family among friends and basically in every sphere of life is the key to keep things going in a harmonious manner.
But lately nthe situation is changing as the present day women have learnt to speak against the injustice, to speak up for themselves but the situation wasn’t always like this and still in many backward rural areas the practice of compromising is being followed up by women. Many girls today are compromising with their studies, with the passion they wanna pursue, with their dreams they’ve admired because of the fear of what society will say. The fear of being not accepted in a society is still ruining the future if many children who had just begun to step into the real world.
There have been instances where girls do stand up for themselves but are suppressed by their families around to keep social norms nin check and follow them.
Indian society is running on “what people will say” since centuries. The norm of social acceptance and approval is prevailing till date from simply dressing up to pursuing a profession everything is decided by the factors based on what is acceptable in society.
To progress in life one thing has to be constantly kept in mind that is, what people will say has absolutely nothing to do with who you are and what you wanna do so I believe there’s no space for compromising one’s dreams, their passion just to keep up with the society.
Just be you and do yy it’s all that matters now.I totally disagree with the statement. If course, being a person who can adjust according to situations is all good and well, but compromising with something as big as your dream is stupidity unless you have a good reason for it. People have judgmental opinions on everything, literally everything, you can never stop people from judging you or looking down upon you. So your dreams should not be decided on the basis of what people will think or say. You only get this life once, and you should live it in the way that makes you happy.
As I said, you can never satisfy people, they will always find ways to critique your choices; what you can do instead is work towards a life that you yourself will enjoy, it will not only be good for your own mental health and well being but it will also radiate positivity for people around you. You will even inspire the future generations—be it your kids or just random strangers—to follow their dream and thrive in their lives. Always remember to live a life that you don’t regret, compromising with your dream will only make you realise in future that you gave up on something that would have wonders for you and your happiness. Obviously, it is not easy to always fulfil your dream, but giving up on it just because of the fear of what will people say is only going to give you regret in life. It will only fill you with self-hatred. So please never ever compromise with your dreams for the sole reason of what will people say. Live your life on your own terms and keep your head high!
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